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Shining a Light on the Shadows of the R+ Community: A Candid Look at Our Biggest Challenges

To my beloved R+ Family,

As I sit down to write this letter, it’s with a heart full of love and a mind brimming with thoughts that have been simmering for some time now. This isn’t just a letter, but a heartfelt plea for introspection, understanding, and collective growth within our cherished R+ community.

We’ve all stepped onto this remarkable path together, haven’t we? It’s a path paved with the belief that shaping behavior isn’t about intimidation or coercion but about positivity, rewards, and a whole lot of understanding. This philosophy isn’t just a training method; it’s a way of life that champions kindness, empathy, and compassion. And what a journey it’s been – transformative for the dogs we adore, for the families we’ve helped, and, importantly, for us.

Yet, in our passionate crusade for our beliefs and methods, we’ve let a sneaky shadow sneak in amongst us. This shadow shows up as division and misunderstandings, sometimes mirroring the very behaviors we’re working hard to change. It’s as if we’ve momentarily forgotten that the principles of positive reinforcement should spill over into how we treat each other – as peers, mentors, and friends.

The Shadow in Our Midst

Even with our hearts in the right place, we’re grappling with a shadow, reminiscent of what Carl Jung delved into. It’s this idea that beneath our conscious efforts to spread light, there’s an unacknowledged side affecting our interactions in ways that don’t always align with our core values.

This shadow could show itself in actions that reflect the behaviors we aim to change in our training sessions. Picture learned helplessness, where someone feels so trapped by past experiences that speaking up or challenging the norm feels daunting, stifling our collective creativity and forward momentum.

Or consider emotional reactivity, flaring up in comments section on social media, leading us away from constructive debate and towards responses fueled more by emotion than reason. This mirrors the exact situations we strive to avoid in dog training, where dogs react out of fear or confusion rather than from understanding and trust. Among us, it can derail communication, making community members feel attacked rather than heard, pushing meaningful dialogue aside.

Most critically, this shadow can strain the core of our community – the relationships we aim to build and nurture. Just as R+ training strengthens the bond between dogs and their humans through positive reinforcement and mutual understanding, we should aim to foster supportive, strong relationships within our own ranks. However, when shadow behaviors like learned helplessness and emotional reactivity take hold, they can erode the trust and respect essential for our community’s well-being and progress.

Feeling the Burnout

Burnout is hitting R+ trainers hard, transforming from mere fatigue into a deep-seated part of our existence, leaving us feeling overwhelmed, undervalued, and disconnected from the work that once sparked joy and purpose in us.

This burnout stems from the unending stress and emotional turmoil fueled by unresolved tensions and conflicts within our field. The constant pressure of advocating for our four-legged friends, coupled with the fear of judgment from within our own community, creates a relentless environment. This stress doesn’t just zap our energy—it starts wearing down our physical health too.

With the linkage between chronic stress and physical health being well-documented, it’s no surprise that dog trainers are facing increasing numbers of autoimmune diseases and other health challenges in addition to anxiety and depression. This burnout is not only killing businesses but the very human beings that run them.

The Ripple Effect

This polarization we’re part of on social media? It’s unfortunately putting pet parents in the crosshairs of confusion and distrust. This climate undermines the essential trust in the trainer-pet parent relationship and diminishes our potential positive impact on dogs and their families.

In an ideal world, the relationship between a dog trainer and a pet parent is based on trust, mutual understanding, and shared objectives. But burnout wears us down, making us less patient, less attentive, and less tuned into the nuances that shape a pet parent’s view. This can lead to misunderstandings and reinforces the very climate of distrust we’re trying to eliminate.

Moreover, when our ability to fully connect and understand pet parents takes a hit, we face significant barriers to achieving client compliance—a critical piece in the success puzzle of any training program. Compliance isn’t just about following through on instructions; it’s about feeling understood and supported, and motivated to embark on the training journey. Without this, our recommendations might miss the mark, leading to lukewarm implementation or outright dismissal. It’s too easy then to point fingers at clients for being uninterested or seeking quick fixes without introspecting on how we can elevate our teaching game.

How It's Affecting Our Dogs

One of the most heartbreaking aspects of our collective shadow is how it hinders our education and professional growth. In our zeal to defend our philosophies, we’ve somewhat lost sight of the crucial need for continuous learning and improvement.

This standstill is particularly dangerous in dog training, a field that naturally should be dynamic and constantly evolving. I can’t be the only one who’s sick of hearing the same content from the same few speakers for our CEUs. Dogs, with their rich tapestry of needs and behaviors, cannot be pigeonholed into the simplistic 4 quadrant model of operant conditioning. There’s a whole lot more to behavior modification than reinforcers and punishments. Yet, as debates over methodologies rage on, we risk overlooking the groundbreaking research into dogs’ cognitive, social, sensory, and emotional worlds. By clinging to outdated dog behavior models, we miss out on opportunities to revolutionize our training methods, potentially enhancing the welfare and life quality of our canine friends.

The hesitation to dive into open discussions about new research and techniques constricts our ability to incorporate these valuable insights into our practice. When fear of criticism stifles our curiosity, asking “What if?” or “Why not?” becomes daunting. This reluctance not only curtails our professional development but also impacts the welfare of the dogs we’ve dedicated ourselves to assisting.

Is Balanced Training To Blame?

The narrative within our R+ community often places balanced trainers at the forefront of our discussions on professional challenges and burnout. While these discussions stem from real frustrations and obstacles, they invite a deeper reflection on the broader implications for both our community and the dog training industry as a whole.

Blaming balanced trainers for our burnout inadvertently grants them significant influence over our happiness and success. This perspective overlooks the broader challenges we face in ensuring our well-being and delivering consistent, high-quality training. When clients, feeling underserved, turn to balanced trainers, it’s not necessarily a critique of R+ methods but a sign of the larger issues at play in maintaining our standards and health. Yes, it’s valid to lament the sight of dogs being mishandled, but making this our identity fosters a cycle of blame and helplessness, rather than empowering us to take charge of the one thing we can control: ourselves.

Moreover, this combative stance can entrench a defensive attitude within the balanced training community. Recognizing that balanced trainers, much like us, operate based on their beliefs and experiences, aiming to address perceived gaps in dog and family training needs, is crucial. Despite our legitimate grievances about their approaches, this divide hampers productive dialogues on training methods, dog welfare, and professional standards—conversations that could uplift the entire industry and, most importantly, benefit the dogs at the heart of our mission.

I am not suggesting that we should excuse abuse and sing “Kumbaya” with trainers who choose to cause harm, but if we truly believe our methodologies work across all species, we should stop employing punishment and coercion to the balanced community to modify their behavior. Yes, we should take a stand for humane training, but if we continue on this highly reinforcing path of punishment, aren’t we inadvertently confirming to them that positive training doesn’t work and you will need to use “corrections” to be effective?

Embracing Our Collective Shadow

By acknowledging these nuances and embracing our shadow, we can move towards a more enlightened, unified approach to dog training. Here are some ideas and actionable steps we can take to reintegrate this shadow side of us:

1. Embrace Self-Care as a Professional Must

Let’s start by redefining self-care: it’s not a luxury; it’s essential, especially as a business owner. This means giving ourselves permission to rest, to move our bodies, to indulge in hobbies outside of dog training, and to prioritize both our physical and mental health. Just as we emphasize the importance of meeting a dog’s needs for their well-being, we must not overlook our own. Establishing a routine of self-care lays the groundwork for behavioral stability, empowering us to engage more fully with our work and our community with renewed vigor and purpose.

2. Manage Our Environments

Our collective shadow, much like the patterns we see in reactive dogs, suggests that healing begins with a detox from the triggers that propel us into reactivity. By mindfully choosing to distance ourselves from social media content or discussions that disrupt our emotional equilibrium—regardless of whether they align with our views—we can significantly reduce our exposure to triggers. This step isn’t about ignoring the issues within our industry but about taking a deliberate pause to recalibrate, ensuring we can return to these discussions more grounded and productive.

3. Cultivate Self-Awareness and Engage in Reflection

The journey to a healthier community starts with each of us. Engaging in regular self-reflection helps us recognize our biases, triggers, and the shadowy aspects of our behavior. This process can be nurtured through our community platforms, mindfulness practices, and reflective journaling, aiming to deepen our understanding of how we influence those around us and vice versa.

4. Apply Counter-Conditioning and Desensitization Strategies

Borrowing from our toolkit in dog training, we recognize the power of counter-conditioning and desensitization in reshaping perceptions and responses. Similarly, we can apply these principles to our professional interactions and personal growth. Fostering a community culture that values and accepts constructive feedback as a catalyst for growth, not as a threat, prepares us to face real challenges with composure and resilience.

5. Innovate Our Training Programs and Strategies

The evolving landscape of today’s world calls for an evolution in dog training models. Traditional program models often fall short in meeting the nuanced needs of dogs and their owners. By leveraging technology and integrating comprehensive support systems, we have a unique opportunity to redefine our training methodologies and program structures. This innovation not only enhances the effectiveness of our methods but also ensures they resonate more deeply with the values and motivations of pet parents.

6. Embrace the Power of Gratitude and Recognition

There’s something almost magical, perhaps a universal principle, that seems to dictate: when we fixate on what we lack, our desires and goals flutter just beyond our grasp. Yet, when we pivot our attention to appreciate what we possess, suddenly, abundance flows our way. This phenomenon is starkly evident in our interactions with pet parents, who might dwell on the undesirable behavior of their canine companions, overlooking all of the things their dog excels at.

By directing our focus towards celebrating the victories and positive contributions within our community, we’re not just shining a spotlight on the good; we’re inviting an abundance of it into our collective journey. This shift in perspective fosters a nurturing environment where positivity and growth flourish, creating a self-reinforcing cycle of gratitude and progress.

Wrapping Up

This letter is a call to action—an intervention of sorts—not to point fingers or to lay blame, but to remind us all of the core principles that brought us together. It’s a call to extend the same compassion, understanding, and positive reinforcement to each other that we so generously offer to the dogs in our care.

As we forge ahead, let’s pledge to create an environment where open, respectful, and constructive dialogue flourishes. Let us each individually be the embodiment of the change we wish to see in the dog training world—a world where empathy, understanding, and kindness are at the core of every interaction, whether with our furry companions or each other.

Let us remember that we are only as strong as our weakest link. Our strength lies in our unity, our diversity of thought, and our shared commitment to the welfare of animals. Let us acknowledge that we are all lifelong learners, that the path of knowledge is winding and infinite, and that there is always room for growth, both professionally and personally.

Much love to you all,

Ashley Emig

CPDT-KA, FFCP

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Can Aggression Be Trained Out of Dogs? Understanding and Managing Canine Behavior

Hey there! If you’ve ever been at your wit’s end over your dog’s aggressive behavior, you’re not alone. Dealing with growling, snapping, or biting is tough, but there’s a silver lining. What if we told you that understanding the roots of this behavior could change the game? Just like humans, dogs often react aggressively not out of a desire to be hostile, but because they’re feeling threatened or overwhelmed.

The Essence of Canine Aggression

Aggression in dogs, much like in humans, can often be a sign of underlying issues such as fear, anxiety, or pain. By drawing parallels to human behavior—think about how some of us might shout or slam doors when stressed—we can begin to understand that our furry friends might be expressing similar distress in their own way.

Factors Influencing Aggressive Behavior in Dogs

Several factors can predispose a dog to behave aggressively. Genetics, early life experiences, and even ongoing environmental factors play a crucial role. Like humans, dogs who have had less social interaction or negative experiences in their formative years may be more reactive or sensitive to certain triggers.

Can We Really "Train" Aggression Out of Dogs?

The concept isn’t about erasing this behavior but understanding and regulating emotions more effectively. Here’s how we can approach it:

  • Seek Professional Guidance: It’s essential to work with a professional dog trainer who specializes in reactivity and aggression or a veterinary behaviorist. These experts are crucial for accurately identifying what triggers your dog’s aggression and devising tailored strategies that address these specific issues.

  • Emotional Coregulation and Establishing a Secure Base: Establishing yourself as a secure base is critical for reactive dogs. Your consistent, calm presence can help your dog learn to manage their emotions more effectively. This connection is about more than obedience—it’s about building a bond that communicates safety, allowing your dog to explore and interact with their environment without fear. This approach is similar to how a parent provides security and comfort to a child, helping them develop confidence and emotional resilience.

  • Understanding Triggers and Controlled Exposure: Controlled exposure involves gradually introducing your dog to their triggers in a secure, managed setting. This method is similar to exposure therapy for humans and can be highly effective in reducing anxiety and aggression. By slowly and safely exposing your dog to these stressors while maintaining a calm and supportive presence, you help them learn to cope in healthier ways.

  • Managing the Environment: Proactively adjusting your dog’s surroundings can prevent situations that trigger aggressive behavior. This could mean avoiding certain stimuli or creating a more structured environment that helps mitigate unpredictable reactions.

  • Health Checks: Regular health evaluations are crucial since physical discomfort or medical issues can exacerbate behavioral problems. Ensuring your dog is healthy helps eliminate pain as a potential cause of aggression.

Keeping It Real

Managing aggression in dogs isn’t about achieving perfection but is more about continuous improvement and understanding. To put this into a human perspective, consider how someone might react if startled unexpectedly—like if a car backfires nearby. The natural response might be to shout or jump. For some, especially those with a traumatic background related to loud noises, the reaction might be even more pronounced, such as screaming or becoming defensive.

Similarly, your dog’s aggressive behavior can be triggered by experiences that might seem benign to you but are perceived as threats by them. Just as a person might need reassurance after being startled, dogs benefit from having a reassuring, consistent presence in their lives. When you react to your dog’s aggression with calmness and understanding, rather than punishment or anxiety, you help them feel safer. It’s about showing them that they don’t need to resort to aggression to protect themselves because you are there to help them manage their fears.

In this way, your relationship with your dog becomes a secure foundation from which they can learn to navigate their world without aggression. Each instance where they might normally react with aggression is an opportunity for you to teach them there are other ways to handle their feelings, much like someone might learn to take deep breaths or seek reassurance after being startled. This process of understanding and adjusting to manage stress responses is key, reflecting the ongoing efforts we all make in managing our emotional reactions in daily life.

Wrap-Up

Consider your own reactions under stress—like snapping at someone during a stressful day or feeling overwhelmed by noise. Our dogs aren’t so different when they find themselves lashing out. With patience, understanding, and the right strategies, we can help them feel safer and behave more appropriately. It’s all about growing together and deepening our empathy for our canine companions.

Cheers to fostering compassion and understanding, both towards ourselves and our four-legged friends. Ashley Emig CPDT-KA

P.S. Want more insights on managing your dog’s behavior or need some personalized guidance? Don’t hesitate to reach out HERE or join our newsletter HERE for more support!

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Are We Treating Our Dogs Like Emotional Servants? A Hard Look at Human Expectations

Hey, let’s talk about something that might make you squirm a little. You love your dog, right? Of course, you do. But have you ever caught yourself wondering if your relationship with your dog is as healthy as it could be? We often forget that dogs, like us, aren’t just here to follow orders or plaster smiles on their faces. They’re not emotional robots designed to cater to our every whim and need. This conversation might get a bit uncomfortable, but it’s crucial. Let’s dig into whether we’re unintentionally treating our dogs more like servants than companions, and what this means for our mutual well-being.

The Uncomfortable Truth

Imagine being in a relationship where your sole purpose is believed to be making the other person happy, regardless of your own feelings or needs. Sounds suffocating, right? Yet, this is a scenario we often unknowingly create for our dogs. We expect them to be perpetually happy, never out of sorts, and always ready to comply with our demands—whether it’s being friendly to every stranger or performing tricks for guests. But here’s the kicker: they are beings with emotions, preferences, and personalities. When we ignore this, we’re not too far from the toxic dynamics found in human relationships marked by narcissism.

The Narcissistic Parallel

In human relationships, narcissistic behavior involves controlling and manipulating someone to cater to one’s own needs, often ignoring their autonomy and emotional well-being. When we project similar behaviors onto our dogs—expecting constant availability, no emotional downtime, and punishment for not meeting these unrealistic expectations—we mirror those unhealthy patterns. Just like a person, a dog pushed too hard can become stressed, anxious, or even reactive. And guess what? It’s not their fault for not fitting into an impossibly perfect mold; it’s a call for us to adjust our expectations.

The Emotional Reality of Dogs

Dogs, much like humans, experience a wide range of emotions. They can feel joy, sadness, anxiety, and yes, even frustration. They are not here to be our emotional punching bags or our unwavering cheerleaders. They need space to express their true selves, which includes having off days just like us. Recognizing this can profoundly change how we interact with them. It means giving them room to be ‘not okay’ and loving them just the same, rather than expecting a wagging tail no matter the circumstance.

Changing Our Perspective

So, how do we shift our perspective and start treating our dogs with the respect and understanding they deserve? It starts with empathy. Imagine how you’d feel if someone dictated every aspect of your life—when you eat, sleep, or even use the bathroom. Sounds ridiculous, right? That’s because it is. Dogs deserve the same consideration we desire for ourselves. They need our patience, our understanding, and most importantly, our respect as fellow sentient beings.

The Path Forward

Creating a healthier bond with our dogs means setting realistic expectations about what they can give us emotionally. It’s about mutual respect, not obedience at the cost of their well-being. We need to advocate for their needs, give them space to grow, and appreciate them for the wonderful, imperfect beings they are. It’s not just about training them to live in our world; it’s about understanding their world too.

Let’s be real: our dogs aren’t here to fill a void or to be molded into emotional crutches. They are vibrant, feeling individuals who deserve to live their lives to the fullest—just as we do. So next time you catch yourself getting frustrated with your dog’s behavior, take a step back and ask yourself: Am I asking too much? Is this fair? Remember, a healthier relationship with your dog starts with empathy and understanding. Let’s do better by them, because they do so much for us.

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Leading with Love, Not Dominance: Key Qualities for Guiding Reactive Dogs

The concept of dominance in dog training has been popularized by media and traditional training methods for decades, suggesting that dogs see their human families as packs where they must establish a pecking order. However, modern behavior science paints a very different picture of the relationship between humans and dogs. Here’s why the dominance theory is not only outdated but can be harmful, and how a shift towards understanding and empathy leads to more effective and humane training methods.

Misconceptions About the "Alpha" Role

The dominance model is often derived from misunderstood studies of wolf packs. Early research suggested that wolves compete with each other for a hierarchical status, with the alpha male and female ruling through force. This model was then mistakenly applied to dogs. More recent studies have shown that wild wolves act more like families where members play roles that support each other, rather than compete.

Translating this outdated model to dogs ignores the fact that dogs have been domesticated for thousands of years and generally do not form social structures similar to wolves in the wild. The ‘alpha’ dog theory suggests owners must eat first, walk through doors first, and enforce various rules to maintain a higher pack status, which can lead to unnecessary and potentially harmful confrontations.

The Fallacy of Dominance-Based Training

Dominance-based training often involves asserting control over a dog through physical interventions like alpha rolls (forcing a dog onto its back) or other methods that intimidate. Such approaches can suppress the dog’s behavior temporarily, but they do not address the underlying causes of the behavior. Worse, they can lead to fear, anxiety, and aggression. Dogs trained with dominance often learn to suppress their indicators of discomfort until they reach a breaking point.

Why Leading with Empathy Works Better

Just like in the workplace, the approach one takes in training and leading dogs can vastly influence the outcomes and the quality of the relationship. Imagine two bosses: one leads through dominance while the other leads through service and support.

The Dominant Boss:

  • Commands and Controls: This boss believes in a strict hierarchy and often uses their authority to command and control their employees. Their approach to management is grounded in the belief that fear of consequences will motivate employees.

  • Short-Term Compliance: Initially, this might result in quick compliance as employees follow orders to avoid conflicts or repercussions. However, this often comes at the cost of creativity, job satisfaction, and trust.

  • Long-Term Consequences: Over time, this authoritative style can lead to high staff turnover, low morale, and a toxic workplace culture. Employees might become disengaged, less likely to contribute ideas, or even develop feelings of resentment.

The Servant Leader:

  • Empowers and Supports: Contrary to the dominant boss, the servant leader puts the needs of their employees first. They focus on empowering team members, encouraging personal and professional growth, and supporting them to achieve team goals.

  • Fosters Engagement: This approach leads to higher levels of engagement, creativity, and motivation among the team. Employees feel valued and respected, which encourages loyalty and a proactive attitude toward work.

  • Sustainable Success: Organizations led by servant leaders often experience sustainable success due to a strong, collaborative team culture that fosters innovation and commitment.

Applying This to Dog Training

Similarly, in dog training, dominance-based methods can lead to obedience that is rooted in fear and anxiety. While a dog may initially comply with commands out of fear of punishment, this does not foster a healthy, trusting relationship between the dog and pet parent.

In contrast, a training approach that mirrors the servant leadership model—focusing on the dog’s needs, rewarding positive behavior, and leading through guidance and support—results in a more harmonious relationship. By rejecting dominance and embracing a relationship built on mutual respect and understanding, both leaders and trainers can achieve more effective and fulfilling relationships, whether with their employees or their four-legged friends.

Qualities To Strive For

Here’s how you can embody leadership qualities that are both effective and compassionate:

1. Calmness: Your Secret Weapon

Imagine you’re in a stressful situation—if someone approaches you with calm assurance, doesn’t it make you feel better? The same goes for dogs. Maintaining calmness, especially in challenging situations, helps soothe your dog and sets a peaceful tone. This doesn’t mean being passive; it’s about responding rather than reacting, which shows your dog that they can trust your guidance no matter the circumstances.

2. Clarity: Be Clear, Not Confusing

Dogs thrive on consistency because it makes the world predictable and less scary. Using clear, consistent cues and establishing routines can significantly reduce a dog’s anxiety. This clarity in communication helps your dog understand what is expected of them and what they can expect from you, which is crucial for building a stable relationship.

3. Curiosity: Understand Before You Act

Approaching your dog’s behavior with curiosity rather than judgment allows you to understand the root causes of their reactivity. Why do they bark excessively at other dogs? What triggers their fear? When you start asking these questions, you move from being just a trainer to being a detective of your dog’s psyche, which is essential for effective problem-solving.

4. Compassion: More Than Just Empathy

Showing compassion involves recognizing your dog’s fears and challenges and responding with empathy and support. This builds a deep bond of trust and reassurance, showing your dog that they are not alone in their struggles. It also positions you as a protector and guide, rather than a figure of fear.

5. Confidence: Believe in Your Approach

Confidence doesn’t mean being inflexible; it means being sure of your methods and conveying this assurance to your dog. When dogs sense that their leader is confident, they feel more secure and are likely to follow suit. This confidence should be based on knowledge and understanding—so the more you learn about dog behavior and training, the more confidently you can act.

6. Courage: Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

Sometimes, managing a reactive dog means stepping out of your comfort zone and facing challenging situations head-on. This requires courage—not just physical, but emotional and psychological. It’s about pushing the boundaries gently and showing your dog that they can safely explore the world beyond their fears.

7. Creativity: One Size Does Not Fit All

Every dog is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Creative problem-solving is critical in finding effective strategies that suit your dog’s specific needs. Whether it’s through play, new types of rewards, or innovative training techniques, being creative can help you and your dog overcome obstacles in unique and effective ways.

8. Connectedness: The Heart of Leadership

Building a strong emotional bond is perhaps the most crucial aspect of leadership. This connectedness goes beyond basic training—it’s about developing a profound mutual respect and understanding. The stronger your connection, the more effectively you can guide and influence your dog’s behavior.

Leading a reactive dog with love and understanding isn’t just about being nice—it’s about being smart, effective, and kind. By embodying these qualities, you can transform the way you manage your dog’s reactivity, leading to a happier and more balanced life for both of you.

👇 How have you seen the impact of different leadership styles in your own life, whether with dogs or in professional environments? Share your experiences and observations below.

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Uniting for the Future: Overcoming Division in the Dog Training Industry

Dear Friends and Colleagues in the Dog Training Community,

Today, I reach out to you as fellow trainers, regardless of whether you lean towards positive reinforcement or balanced methodologies. As hard as it can be to understand one another, believe it or not, we are all united by a common passion: improving the quality of life for dogs and their humans to the best of our abilities. This message and subsequent invitation are both a stark wake-up call and a call to action. It’s time to wave the white flag, put aside our differences, and come together to address a significant challenge facing our profession.

I approach this issue from the perspective of a crossover-positive trainer, someone who now believes that force, coercion, and punishment are unnecessary for raising well-adjusted dogs. However, my goal here is to look beyond personal biases and consider the bigger picture, addressing issues that affect us all, no matter our training philosophies.

As you read this, I urge you to momentarily set aside your own biases and focus on the larger implications of what’s happening to our industry

Meet the Players in the Great Divide

As our understanding of canine behavior has progressed over the past 40 or so years, it’s given rise to two main camps in modern dog training: positive trainers and balanced trainers. Both groups operate loosely under the LIMA (Least Intrusive, Minimally Aversive) framework, but they interpret and apply it differently.

Positive trainers, as I stated above, believe that force, coercion, punishment, or threats of harm are unnecessary for raising well-adjusted and resilient dogs. They focus on creating a stress-free learning environment that fosters trust and strengthens the bond between dogs and their owners. By rewarding desirable behaviors and managing the environment to reduce undesirable ones, positive trainers aim to promote ethical and humane training practices that avoid fear and anxiety during the training process.

Balanced Trainers, as I define them, also adhere to the LIMA framework but take a broader approach. They aim to use the least amount of aversive and intrusive training methods possible, taking the same route as a positive trainer. However, they believe that in certain situations, fair and appropriate corrections are necessary as an escalation in aversive measures to facilitate learning. Balanced trainers incorporate a mix of rewards and corrections, arguing that this comprehensive approach provides clearer communication and more reliable results.

This division in philosophy has sparked intense debates within the dog training community. Positive trainers often argue that balanced methods are abusive and suppress behavior (making it worse in the long run) rather than changing it. On the other hand, balanced trainers contend that positive methods can be too slow and result in dogs that are overly dependent and unable to handle stress.

This ongoing conflict is more than just an ethical debate—it has practical consequences that affect our entire community. The heated arguments, especially those played out on social media, create a divisive atmosphere that discourages open dialogue and mutual learning. Rather than advancing our collective understanding and skills, these battles often cement divisions and impede progress.

Additionally, this polarization confuses pet parents who look to us for guidance. When they encounter conflicting advice and public disputes, it becomes challenging for them to make informed choices about training methods. This confusion can lead to inconsistent training practices or even deter pet parents from pursuing training altogether, which ultimately affects the dogs.

The Looming Threat On The Horizon

Beyond the heated debates and polarization in our community, there’s a more pressing issue we must confront. Small business owners, the backbone of dog training, are burning out. Many dedicated trainers are closing their doors, unable to sustain their businesses or cope with the emotional toll of their work. As they step back, large corporations are eagerly moving in to dominate the flourishing pet services market.

This shift is not merely about changing ownership; it fundamentally alters how these businesses operate. Corporate strategies prioritize efficiency and scalability, often at the expense of the personalized, nuanced approach that defines quality dog training. These companies focus on high-volume services and cost-cutting measures, leading to a quick-fix, one-size-fits-all methodology that overlooks the unique needs of individual dogs and their pet parents.

The rise of these corporations also disrupts the market balance. Independent trainers and small business owners struggle to compete against the financial power of these large entities. Corporations can outspend smaller players in advertising, pushing local trainers to the margins. This dominance in advertising drives up costs and misleads pet parents, who might be swayed by slick marketing rather than the proven quality and experience of local trainers.

Furthermore, the corporate takeover affects the professional development and well-being of trainers. Large corporations often employ trainers at lower wages and expect them to manage large caseloads, with little regard for their professional growth or the intricacies of effective training techniques. This can lead to high turnover rates, burnout, and a decline in the overall quality of services provided.

We can already see the warning signs from parallel industries. The veterinary field, for example, is grappling with severe burnout and distress among vets and vet techs, leading to the emergence of movements like #NotOneMoreVet. Major corporations, such as Mars (Yes! The candy company!), have expanded their reach into veterinary care, owning chains like VCA, Banfield, BluePearl Vet, and CPNA. Their acquisition of Camp Bow Wow and Blackstone’s acquisition of Rover signals a similar trajectory for dog training.

But That’s Not All…

While the corporate threat looms large, another equally concerning trend is gaining traction: the resurgence of compulsion training methods, popularized by social media influencers. These influencers often prioritize entertainment value over effective, ethical training practices, leading to a devolution in training standards that undermines the progress made by both positive reinforcement and balanced training advocates.

Compulsion training, which relies solely on heavy-handed physical corrections, dominance, and aversive methods, has gained a new foothold thanks to the viral nature of social media. Influencers with large followings often showcase dramatic “before and after” transformations, appealing to pet parents who are desperate for quick fixes to their dogs’ behavioral issues. However, both sides understand that these methods are harmful, leading to fear, anxiety, and even increased aggression in dogs.

The rise of compulsion training on social media is alarming for several reasons. Firstly, it promotes a simplistic view of dog behavior and training, suggesting that complex issues can be resolved for good through force and intimidation in a matter of hours. This narrative is misleading and dangerous, as it disregards the underlying causes of behavioral problems and the need for a nuanced and educated approach. Again, both sides agree this narrative is bad news for dogs.

Secondly, the popularity of these influencers can erode the public’s trust in professional, ethical trainers. Pet parents may be swayed by the apparent success of these methods, overlooking the long-term damage they can cause. This shift in perception can make it harder for dedicated trainers, who use science-based methods to gain clients and educate the public about effective training practices and realistic expectations for their dogs. For pet parents who can recognize the harm being done by these influencers, this misrepresentation of the “correct use of tools”, is especially damaging to the balanced community, who are often being lumped in with extremist abusers.

The resurgence of compulsion training threatens to undo the advancements made in our understanding of canine behavior and welfare. Over the past few decades, the dog training industry as a whole has moved towards more holistic, evidence-based methods that prioritize the mental and emotional well-being of dogs. This progress is jeopardized by the re-emergence of outdated, punitive techniques that can cause significant harm.

We Don’t Have the Luxury of Arguing in the Sandbox Anymore

As we duke it out in the comments sections of social media, our emotions get dysregulated, we go into fight-or-flight mode, and eventually, we burn out. Meanwhile, we are leaving the doors wide open for corporations and influencers to move right in and take the lead in our industry. Simply put, we don’t have the luxury of arguing in the sandbox—our “Skinner box”—when a much larger threat looms on the horizon.

First and foremost, we need to recognize that our shared passion for helping dogs and their humans far outweighs our differences in beliefs about operant conditioning. We are all human, and the majority of trainers are doing their absolute best with the current level of education they have.

When we stop defending our own beliefs about quadrants and listen to each other, we find that we agree on quite a few things and are eager to explore new avenues of behavior modification together:

  • Building resilience through play and social connection

  • How diet and the gut microbiome affect behavior

  • Meeting breed and species-specific needs

  • Identifying potential pain or discomfort through muscle development and gait

  • Learning to read and respond appropriately to canine body language

  • Neurobiology and its effects on behavior

And the list goes on and on!

Yes, we might disagree on quadrants, but there is a whole heck of a lot more to training and raising a resilient and mentally stable dog than operant conditioning.  I have personally been able to have extremely productive conversations with trainers “from the other side” when we purposefully put our quadrants down and brainstorm about all of the other things that go into raising a well-adjusted dog.

These discussions have led to finding solutions for our clients that didn’t require another tool or treat-reinforced exercise for them to do. If we collectively put more effort into researching, learning, and teaching the myriad of other things that go into raising a dog, we’d have more stable dogs overall. My bias rears its head here, but when we have more stable dogs overall, it’s a whole lot easier to not “have to” escalate to aversives when operant conditioning is applied.

Both sides can agree that we all need access to quality education and resources. Better education leads to better trainers, which in turn leads to better outcomes for dogs and their pet parents. Instead of letting our differences divide us, we should harness our shared passion for helping dogs to drive meaningful change. By focusing on the numerous aspects of dog training we agree on, we can collaborate on creating a baseline industry standard of education and business practices. 

By focusing on our shared goals, we can create a united front to resist external threats. Our unity will help ensure that the future of dog training remains focused on what truly matters: the well-being of dogs and the professional integrity of trainers. We must shift from seeing each other as adversaries to recognizing that we are allies with a common purpose.

My Proposal to You

The time has come for us to take concrete steps to safeguard the future of the dog training industry. We need to step out of our echo chambers and come together to protect the future of dog training. Here’s how we can unite and take tangible actions to advance our profession:

  1. Stabilize Our Businesses: Our first priority should be to ensure that our businesses are resilient and sustainable. When we’re constantly fighting to keep our heads above water, we’re too exhausted to focus on anything else. Let’s share resources, strategies, and support to help each other build stable businesses. This will free us from survival mode and allow us to invest in further education and improve our services. It also reduces our reactivity online and puts us in a better mental state to have a productive dialog with one another.

  2. Facilitate Access to Further Education and Mentorships: Continuing education and mentorship are crucial for professional development. We need to create and promote opportunities for all trainers to access high-quality education and mentorship programs. This includes organizing workshops, online courses, and peer mentoring systems that are accessible to everyone, regardless of their financial situation. By improving access to education, we ensure that all trainers can enhance their skills and knowledge, leading to better outcomes for dogs and their owners.

  3. Lift Up Small Voices: Let’s make sure the voices of small businesses are heard, not just those who win popularity contests or can afford to “pay to play.” Many talented trainers don’t have large followings but bring unique and valuable perspectives to our field. We need to facilitate a platform where we can create a more inclusive and supportive industry that values diverse contributions. 

  4. Collaborate on Research: To advance our understanding of dog behavior, we need to continue researching the sensory, mental, emotional, and social aspects of dogs. By gaining a deeper understanding of these areas, we can develop more ethical and effective strategies for behavior modification across the board. This will allow us to elevate our skills and decrease our heavy reliance on operant-based interventions, potentially making the quadrant debate almost obsolete. Let’s work together to explore these dimensions and improve our overall approach to dog training.

If you’re tired of the fighting and want to elevate our industry, join me from August 7-9 in Austin, Texas, for a face-to-face gathering of trainers who are ready to put our egos down for the sake of the dogs and move our industry in a healthier direction. This event is an opportunity to step out from behind our screens and come together in person. We’ll share ideas, learn from each other, and build a unified front to tackle the challenges we face.

This is a grassroots effort to move our industry forward. If this resonates with you, click the link below to reserve your spot. Let’s put aside our differences and work together to provide the best care for our canine companions and advance the dog training profession.

👇RSVP HERE👇

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Navigating the Emotional Dance: Co-Regulation in Training Reactive Dogs

Ever felt like your dog is tuning into your emotions, matching your excitement, or comforting you when you’re down? This isn’t just your imagination at play; it’s a phenomenon known as emotional co-regulation. In the context of training reactive dogs, this invisible leash between your emotions and your dog’s behavior is especially significant.

It’s entirely normal to feel a gamut of your own emotions, including anxiety, during the training process. Acknowledging and navigating these feelings is not a sign of weakness but a step towards creating a more effective and empathetic training environment for your reactive dog. Let’s explore how emotional co-regulation plays out in training reactive dogs, the impact of human anxiety, and strategies to foster a supportive atmosphere for learning and growth.

The Invisible Leash: Emotional Co-Regulation Explained

Emotional co-regulation refers to the way humans and dogs influence each other’s emotional states, creating a shared emotional climate. In training environments, especially with reactive dogs, this connection means your dog is not just learning training cues but also picking up on your emotional cues. Anxiety, frustration, or even overexcitement can muddy the waters of communication, making it harder for your dog to understand and follow through with training cues.

The Human Element: It's Okay to Feel

Feeling anxious or overwhelmed while training a reactive dog? You’re not alone. These feelings are a natural response to a challenging situation. The key is not to berate yourself for having emotions but to recognize and work through them. Your emotional state directly impacts your dog, making it crucial to address your own anxieties to support your dog effectively.

The Ripple Effect of Anxiety

Anxiety can create a feedback loop between you and your dog. A tense leash grip or an anxious tone can escalate your dog’s reactivity, reinforcing the cycle of stress and reaction. This doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong; it’s a normal part of the emotional co-regulation process. Breaking this cycle requires awareness and strategies to manage your emotions during training sessions

Strategies for Emotional Management and Supportive Training

  1. Mindfulness and Self-awareness: Start by recognizing your emotional state before and during training sessions. Mindfulness can help you stay present and calm, reducing the transfer of anxiety to your dog.

  2. Emotional Preparation: If you’re feeling particularly anxious, take time to engage in activities that calm you down before training sessions. This might include meditation, a walk, or simply deep breathing exercises.

  3. Professional Guidance: Sometimes, the best way to break the cycle of anxiety and reactivity is to seek help from a professional dog trainer or behaviorist. They can offer tailored strategies and support for both you and your dog.

  4. Celebrate Small Victories: Training a reactive dog is a journey filled with ups and downs. Celebrating small successes can boost your confidence and reinforce positive emotions in both you and your dog.

Embracing the Emotional Journey Together

Training a reactive dog is more than just a series of cues and exercises; it’s an emotional journey that you and your dog embark on together. By acknowledging and managing your anxieties, you create a supportive and empathetic environment conducive to learning and growth. Remember, the goal isn’t perfection but progress, built on a foundation of mutual understanding and emotional support. Together, you and your dog can navigate the challenges of reactivity, transforming obstacles into opportunities for strengthening your bond and enhancing your training journey.

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Come Hell or High Water: Emergency Preparedness for Dog Parents

Disasters don’t care where you live. Even places once considered safe from extreme weather are facing hurricanes, wildfires, tornados, and earthquakes. Maybe you’ve never had to evacuate—but at some point, you will. It’s not a matter of if, but when.

I used to believe the mountains were a safe place. Then Hurricane Helene proved me wrong.

The power was already out before the storm even arrived, and the darkness was suffocating. I paced the living room, watching the creek behind my house swell higher and higher. My anxious dog, Harley, followed my every move, feeding off my anxiety. The wind didn’t just bend the trees—it snapped them, sending them rushing downstream in the raging flood forming in my backyard. There was nothing I could do to stop it. As the floodwaters crept closer, the reality sank in—I had no plan, no clear next step, just rising panic.

That moment changed everything. If you have a dog, take this as your sign: you need a plan. Here’s how to make sure you and your pup are ready before disaster strikes.

1. Pack a Go-Bag for Your Dog

When you have minutes to leave, the last thing you want is to be scrambling for essentials. Keep a dedicated emergency bag packed and ready with:

  • Leash, Harness, and Collar: A sturdy set for security and control

  • Comfort Items: A favorite blanket and toy to help ease anxiety

  • Edible Chews: Long-lasting chews to keep your dog occupied and relieve stress

  • Food & Water Bowls: Collapsible, lightweight, and easy to clean

  • Medications & Vet Records: Store in a waterproof bag

  • First Aid Kit: Bandages, antiseptic, tweezers, and pet-specific medical supplies

  • Poop Bags: Enough for multiple days

A dedicated bag ensures you can grab everything in seconds rather than scrambling under pressure.

2. Know Where You’ll Go Before You Need To Leave

Don’t wait until the last minute to evacuate. If evacuation seems likely, leave early. Roads are safer, shelters and hotels have more availability, and you won’t have to fight through traffic or risk losing cell service.

Not all shelters and hotels allow dogs, and finding a place last minute is a nightmare. Plan ahead:

  • Pet-Friendly Hotels: Research now and keep their contact info saved

  • Emergency Boarding Facilities: Find backup locations in case hotels are full

  • Friends or Family: Arrange a safe place your dog can stay

  • Transportation: If you don’t have a car, locate pet-friendly public transit options

3. Make Sure Your Dog Has ID

If you get separated, proper identification is the fastest way to reunite with your dog:

  • Collar with Up-to-Date Tags: Ensure your cell number is listed

  • Microchip: Register it and confirm your contact details are current

  • Write Your Phone Number on Their Belly with a Sharpie: If their collar falls off, this could be the best way for someone to reach you

4. Public Training Matters

While regular life can make it easy to avoid your dog’s triggers, a crisis changes everything. If your dog isn’t used to being in public spaces, evacuating to a shelter or hotel can be overwhelming. Start training now so they can handle unfamiliar situations more easily.

  • Crate Training: A dog who loves their crate will feel safer in shelters and hotels

  • Car Rides: Take them on regular trips so they’re comfortable in a vehicle

  • Public Exposure: Gradually introduce them to busier environments, new people, and different surfaces

  • Muzzle Training: If you end up in a crowded shelter or have to interact with strangers, a muzzle can prevent stress-related incidents

The more adaptable your dog is to new situations, the easier an evacuation will be for both of you.

5. Keep a One-Month Supply of Food & Meds

Evacuations can be chaotic, and supplies become suddenly sparse. Always have at least a month’s worth of essentials on hand.

  • Emergency Food: Keep shelf-stable options like freeze-dried raw, air-dried, or kibble

  • Medication Supply: Ensure you have at least a one-month backup of any essential prescriptions

  • Extra Prescriptions: Ask your vet about getting an emergency refill

The Bottom Line: Prepare Now, Not Later

Extreme weather and natural disasters can happen anywhere, at any time. The best time to prepare was yesterday—the second-best time is right now.

✅ Pack an emergency go-bag

✅ Plan where you’ll evacuate to

✅ Train your dog for stress and public spaces

✅ Keep extra food and medication on hand

✅ Ensure your dog has multiple forms of ID
 
Don’t wait until you’re watching the water rise. Prepare now, so you and your dog stay safe—no matter what happens.

Have an emergency plan for your pet? Drop your tips in the comments!

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The Subtle Class Divide in Dog Ownership: How Money Affects the Way We Raise Dogs

Dogs may be the great equalizer in love and loyalty, but when it comes to raising them, money changes everything. Some dogs eat grass-fed, organic raw food while others get the biggest bag of kibble their owner can afford. Some go to daycare and get weekly spa treatments, while others make do with a backyard and a hose.

It’s not about how much an owner loves their dog—it’s about what they can afford. And as costs keep rising, the gap between pampered pups and just-getting-by dogs is growing wider.

How Money Shapes the Way We Raise Our Dogs

Every dog needs food, shelter, medical care, training, and exercise. But how those needs are met depends entirely on financial status.

Food: The Difference Between a Long, Healthy Life & Just Getting By

Dogs need nutritionally balanced meals to live long, healthy lives. But not all owners have the same options.

💰 Higher-income owners can afford premium kibble, fresh meal delivery, or raw diets with high-quality, ethically sourced ingredients. Some even consult pet nutritionists for custom meal plans.

💵 Lower-income owners buy what’s affordable—usually budget kibble, which may have lower-quality ingredients and less nutritional value.

The difference? Dogs on higher-quality diets may have fewer health issues, longer lifespans, and lower vet bills in the long run. But not everyone can afford to invest in food as preventive care.

Veterinary Care: Proactive vs. Reactive

Vet bills are one of the biggest financial stressors for dog owner

💰 For wealthier owners, routine vet visits, dental cleanings, and preventive screenings are part of the budget. They can afford to catch problems early.

💵 For lower-income owners, vet care may only happen in an emergency. Preventive treatments—like dental cleanings, allergy testing, or orthopedic screenings—are skipped because of cost.

An emergency surgery can cost $5,000 to $15,000, forcing some owners to make impossible choices. Some turn to GoFundMe, others put it on credit cards, and in heartbreaking cases, some are forced to surrender their dog because they simply can’t afford care.

Training & Behavior: Setting Dogs Up for Success—Or Struggling to Catch Up

A well-trained dog is a safer, happier dog. But access to professional training depends on budget.

💰 Some owners invest in puppy training classes, private sessions, or even behavior specialists. Their dogs get structured guidance from an early age, reducing problem behaviors down the line.

💵 Others rely on trial and error, YouTube videos, or don’t have time for structured training. If behavioral issues escalate, rehoming sometimes becomes the only option.

It’s not that one owner cares more—it’s that one has access to resources the other doesn’t.

Exercise & Socialization: Backyard Dogs vs. Doggy Daycare

How much time and space a dog gets for exercise and socialization isn’t just about effort—it’s about circumstances.

💰 Some dogs go to daycare, structured playgroups, and private training sessions. They have safe, controlled ways to burn energy and socialize.

💵 Other dogs rely on a quick walk after work or whatever playtime their owner can squeeze in. If their owner works long hours or lives in an apartment with no yard, that can mean a lot of pent-up energy and behavioral frustration.

It’s not that owners don’t want to give their dogs more—it’s that not everyone has the time, flexibility, or finances to do so.

The Privilege of Dog Ownership Itself

As costs keep rising, owning a dog at all is becoming a privilege.

  • Pet deposits and breed restrictions make housing harder for lower-income owners.

  • Vet costs push some families into financial crisis.

  • The cost of quality food, training, and care creates a stark divide in how dogs experience life.

Some dogs travel the world with their owners, sleep on orthopedic beds, and eat fresh-cooked meals. Others are left home alone for long hours, eat whatever is cheapest, and rarely see a vet.

Again—it’s not love that makes the difference. It’s money.

The Bottom Line

Dogs don’t know (or care) how much money their owners make—they just want love, attention, and care. But from what they eat to how they’re trained and cared for, money plays a huge role in shaping a dog’s life.

What Do You Think? Let’s Talk!

💬 Do you think the cost of dog ownership is getting out of hand?

💬 Have you noticed financial barriers in pet care?
💬 What solutions do you think could make responsible dog ownership more accessible?
 

Drop your thoughts in the comments! Let’s have an honest conversation about how money shapes the way we care for our dogs. 🐶💸

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Walking on Eggshells: The Emotional Toll of Owning a Reactive Dog

Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get talked about enough.

Owning a reactive dog isn’t just about training, desensitization, or finding the right harness. It’s about living with the weight of it. It’s the stress, the frustration, the guilt. It’s the way your heart races every time you see an off-leash dog, the way you tense up when a stranger gets too close, the way you mentally map out every walk like it’s a military operation.

And let’s be honest—it can be exhausting.

Today, I want to talk about what this really does to us, the pet parents. Because your mental health and quality of life matter too.

The Weight of Stigma

The world isn’t always kind to reactive dogs—or their owners.

We’ve all been there. The judgmental looks. The unsolicited advice. The person at the park who sighs dramatically because you crossed the street to avoid them.

💬 “You just need to socialize them more.”

💬 “They must have been abused.”

💬 “Are you sure you know what you’re doing?”
 

It stings. Because no one sees the hours you’ve spent training, the countless adjustments you’ve made, the way you rearrange your entire life just to make your dog feel safe.

The truth? Reactivity doesn’t mean a bad dog or a bad owner. But the world often makes us feel that way.

The Emotional Rollercoaster

Owning a reactive dog isn’t just a responsibility—it’s an emotional minefield.

😰 Anxiety—Always being on high alert, constantly scanning for triggers.

😞 Frustration—Why can’t we just have a normal walk?

😔 Guilt—Wondering if you’re doing enough, if you’ve failed them somehow.
 
🚶‍♂️ Isolation—Avoiding parks, certain streets, or social situations because it’s easier.

It seeps into your life. You find yourself canceling plans, dreading daily walks, feeling trapped in routines designed not for joy, but for damage control.

And maybe worst of all? You start feeling like you can’t even be mad. Like you don’t have the right to be tired or frustrated because “it’s not their fault.”

But here’s the thing—it’s not your fault either.

The Guilt That Never Ends

You know that voice in your head? The one that whispers:

💭 “I wish my dog could just be normal.”

💭 “If I were a better owner, maybe they wouldn’t be like this.”

💭 “Am I doing enough?”

That guilt? It’s a lie.

Your dog doesn’t need a perfect life—they need a safe one. They don’t sit around wishing for off-leash hikes or dog park playdates. They just want to feel secure. And the fact that you try, that you show up every single day, means you’re already doing enough.

How to Take Care of Yourself, Too

Caring for a reactive dog means caring for yourself too. Otherwise, the burnout is inevitable.

✔️ Shift Your Mindset—You’re not failing. You’re adapting. Celebrate small wins.

✔️ Find Your People—Join a reactive dog support group (online or in person). Venting to people who get it helps more than you think.

✔️ Give Yourself Permission to Take Breaks—Your dog doesn’t need you to be stressed. If skipping a walk today is the best thing for both of you, do it.

✔️ Stop Comparing—Your journey isn’t theirs. And that’s okay.

✔️ Work with a Trainer You Trust—Not just for your dog’s progress, but for your own peace of mind.

You Are More Than Your Dog’s Struggles

Your dog isn’t giving you a hard time—they’re having a hard time. But that doesn’t mean you don’t deserve patience, understanding, and support, too.

Because this is hard. And you don’t have to pretend otherwise.

💬 Let’s talk. How has living with a reactive dog impacted you emotionally? What strategies have helped you cope? Drop a comment below—because no one should have to walk this path alone. ❤️🐾

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A Real Talk Guide to Chews for Dogs: Why They Matter and How to Choose Without Losing Your Mind

If you’ve ever tried to pick out a chew for your dog, you know how quickly it turns from a fun shopping trip to a full-blown research project. One article says this chew is a must-have. The next says it’s dangerous. Cracked teeth. Choking risks. Tummy trouble. It’s enough to make you want to toss your laptop out the window.

It’s that classic “damned if you do, damned if you don’t” feeling that so many pet parents know well.

But here’s the thing: chewing is essential for dogs — not optional. It’s not just a way to keep them busy while you’re on a Zoom call. Chewing supports everything from dental hygiene to emotional well-being. It’s a need, not a luxury.

And when you start looking at chews through that lens, it gets a whole lot easier to cut through the noise and focus on what really matters.

Why Chewing is So Important for Dogs

Chewing is more than a habit — it’s a natural, instinctive behavior that’s deeply fulfilling for dogs. It helps them process energy, self-soothe, and exercise their minds and jaws.

There’s even science to back it up: chewing releases endorphins — natural feel-good chemicals that help reduce stress and anxiety. That’s why dogs often gravitate toward a chew when they’re feeling overwhelmed or overstimulated.

And let’s not forget about dental health. Chewing helps scrape away plaque and tartar, which reduces the risk of gum disease and supports healthier teeth. Think of it like nature’s toothbrush — without the awkward struggle of trying to hold a toothbrush in your dog’s mouth for 30 seconds.

Yes, All Chews Have Risks — But Don’t Let That Stop You

Let’s be real — every chew comes with some risk. Some are too hard and could damage teeth. Others are a choking hazard. Some can be too rich and upset your dog’s digestive system.

And yet, that doesn’t mean you need to avoid chews altogether. It just means you need to choose wisely, supervise appropriately, and be realistic about your dog’s chewing habits.

And by the way, supervision doesn’t mean helicoptering over your dog the entire time they chew. It means using common sense. If your dog’s working on a dense chew like a marrow bone or an antler, it makes sense to be nearby. But if they’ve got a stuffed KONG or a beef cheek roll they’ve handled well before, you’re probably safe heading out for a quick errand.

It’s about calculated risk, not paranoia.

Short-Lasting Chews: Small but Mighty

Not every chew needs to last an hour. Short-lasting chews can be incredibly effective — especially for enrichment, dental hygiene, and redirecting energy in a meaningful way.

Some of the best natural options include:

  • Jerky treats – chewy, satisfying, and a step up from your everyday cookie.

  • Fish skin – light, crispy, and naturally abrasive for scrubbing teeth.

  • Pig ears – a classic chew that’s flavorful, crunchy, and satisfying for most dogs. They’re a great middle-ground option — not too hard, not too soft.

  • Chicken feet and turkey necks – nutrient-dense, fully digestible soft bones that are excellent for oral health. Their unique texture helps clean teeth and even floss between them.

Yes, chicken feet and turkey necks are technically raw, and that might make some dog parents pause. That’s totally understandable. But these aren’t giant beef bones — they’re softer, gentler, and much safer than they sound, especially when sourced from trusted suppliers. And if raw isn’t your thing, you can find air-dried versions that still offer the same benefits without the ick factor.

Also — short-lasting chews are perfect if you’re someone who likes to hand out the occasional “just because” treat. Instead of tossing another biscuit, why not give your dog something with real purpose behind it? A chew that cleans their teeth, supports their joints, and satisfies their instinct to gnaw? That’s a treat worth giving.

Long-Lasting Chews: For Focus and Fulfillment

Then there are the chews that are meant to last — the ones that give your dog something to really dig into. Long-lasting chews provide deep enrichment, help dogs settle down, and create that calming, focused chewing state that many dogs crave.

Some popular options include:

  • Bully, Tendon, or Collagen sticks

  • Yak chews / Himalayan cheese chews

  • Beef cheek rolls

  • Frozen KONGs or treat-stuffed toys

  • Marrow Bones

  • Cow Hooves

  • Antlers

  • Nylon Chews

  • Dog-Safe Wood Chews

These are great for crate time, rainy days, or those moments when your dog is bouncing off the walls and needs a healthy outlet. Chewing helps them decompress — not just burn energy, but calm their minds.

Just remember: not all dogs are suited for all chews. Hard bones and antlers might be too much for puppies or dogs with dental issues. That’s where knowing your dog — and supervising smartly — makes all the difference.

Moderation Makes It All Work

Here’s the secret sauce: balance. Chewing should be part of your dog’s life, not their entire life. Too much chewing — especially if it’s the same thing every day — can lead to worn teeth, gum irritation, or upset stomachs.

It’s better to rotate chews throughout the week, mix up textures, and integrate chews into your dog’s broader enrichment routine. Think of them as one piece of the puzzle — alongside sniff walks, puzzle toys, training games, and play.

When used mindfully, chews become more than a treat — they become a tool for better behavior, better health, and a better bond with your dog.

Final Thoughts: Trust Yourself — You’re Doing Great

There’s no such thing as the “perfect chew.” And that’s okay. You don’t need perfection — you just need thoughtful, balanced choices that work for your dog, in your home, with your lifestyle.

So don’t let the online horror stories scare you off. Choose intentionally, supervise wisely, and remember: you’re already doing the best thing for your dog by simply caring enough to learn.

You’ve got this — and your dog’s happy, healthy, chew-satisfied tail wag is all the proof you need.